Friday, August 30, 2013

Fabulous Friday

In honor of the joy that radiates through the world at the end of the week, I put together some things I am really finding quite fabulous these days. It was a good week, good to be back to work, but boy am I happy it's the weekend. How about you?

Get It Girl. Enough said.
This outfit? Perfect for fall. Divine. Want to be this woman and wear her clothes.
I am dreaming of these beautiful red pumps. I like a chunky heel because it means I might actually be able to walk in them!
I bought this work out tank last weekend at Target. It looks just like a lululemon, and it is a tiny fraction of the price. I am definitely going back for more.
This bag is...delicious! And, while I am typing this, I received a coupon for 25% off a full priced item this weekend at C. Wonder. Just use the code: LABORDAY. Hooray! (Oh, yeah, and I am so getting it monogrammed.)
I would like to buy this amazing card for myself.

Happy Labor Day weekend! We are going back to a favorite spot, Hog Island Oyster Co., in Point Reyes. Can't wait for the salty air and good eats. See you next week!

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Dorm Room Decor

Well, we're keeping it in the family this week. My sister is a senior in college, and she has just moved back in to the dorm. I always told her that her dorm rooms were better decorated than some people's apartments, so she agreed to put together a post for those of you young people out there who are starting back at school and wanting to unleash your inner decoristas.


Gaby writes:
Back to school is an expensive time; traveling, purchasing textbooks, on top of decorating and furnishing an apartment or dorm room can run you a pretty penny! Although the task may be daunting, there are many stylish and affordable ways to transform a bland dorm room into your own personal oasis.

This year my roommate and I decided to purchase coordinating bedding from Simply Shabby Chic. The prints are feminine, fun, and can be found at Target! Shabby Chic not only sells bedding, but also curtains, furniture, and other home accessories that make coordinating a small space easier.

Pillows are a great way to make a bed more comfortable and an extra-pillow is the perfect support when you want to read in bed. The pink and floral pillows are Shabby Chic prints, while the front decorative pillow is DKNY and was purchased at Bed Bath & Beyond.

Above my bed I have created a collage of picture frames found at Ikea to make the space feel more personal.

It is important to keep your workspace clean, and I have tried to decorate my desk as a minimalist. The crystal ball lamp was purchased at Target and lends a modern vibe to the bare wooden desk. My earrings are hung on a jewelry organizer (similar) on my desk and bring color and  femininity to the space. The jewelry organizer serves both a functional and decorative purpose.

A cheap and simple way to make a dorm room feel more homey is to hang curtains. My roommate and I purchased these pink curtains from Shabby Chic that match both of our bedding. These simple curtains add a pop of color and create an at home feel.
Now check out this room from Gaby's freshman year...I am quite sure that no other dorm room I've seen has french doors.

While you won't find me wanting to go back to college anytime soon, I am really in love with Gaby's little room (both of them actually!).  I do think that she has an important point about keeping the space clean and streamlined. That certainly makes the space feel less cluttered and claustrophobic (no crazy wall collages of ripped out magazine pages here) and helps to minimize distractions. If you need any more dorm room tips, send us an email at theitslikethisblog@gmail.com, and Gaby will be happy to answer your questions!

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Fall Fashion For The Guys

It is your lucky day because my dear brother is back with his top five picks for fall. He has put together some must haves for the well-dressed gent's wardrobe. No one spends more time scrolling through men's fashion advice on Reddit or perusing the J.Crew website than he, so I would say he knows what he's talking about. Without further ado:
 Kip writes...
1. Duffel coats are awesome because of the rustic charm of wooden toggles. This particular one is super cheap if you want to try out the style without spending the hundreds you can spend for a designer variation.

2. Fall is all about sweaters. Besides Fair Isle sweaters, for which I will always have a soft spot, thick chunky knits are the most interesting thing you can wear for that stylish preppy outdoorsy look.
3. Boots are the perfect fall/winter footwear, and these awesome boots are handmade in Chicago. The intense Vibram sole makes them that much more durable (and cool).

4. From the just released Patagonia Legacy collection, this is an awesome sportier option for cold weather. Patagonia fleeces work in so many climates, and I am partial to the diamond quilted pattern on this one.
5. An alternative to your typical check, plaid, and stripes, this foulard print is unique and interesting. The green color will be a perfect complement to all your fall earth tones.
Thanks, Kip! It comes in handy to have a male eye on the family team! These are great picks, and I kind of want that Patagonia myself...

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Tuesday Beauty


I am still a huge fan of Birchbox, and I look forward to my monthly delivery of beauty like Christmas. This month, I got a lipstick that I almost threw away. The color looked dark and more brown than anything I usually wear, but one evening I was on my way out, and I decided to give it a go. Afterall, one can always take lipstick off. So, I tried it, and I was very surprised by how natural and lovely it looked. In addition, it feels like a beautiful buttery balm. It is probably the most moisturizing and least sticky lip product I've tried to date. It doesn't look like the brand is too widely carried yet (i.e. they don't have it at Sephora), but I think this is an undiscovered gem! Even in this darkish color I received in my Birchbox, it has been a shade I pull out daily. I can't wait to try some of the other colors. If you want to try something a little more daring for fall, give Dusk Til Dawn (or this awesome trio) a whirl, and report back and let me know what you think!


Monday, August 26, 2013

Monday Musings


The other night I was commenting on this person and that person on Facebook, all people I barely know or haven't seen in about fifteen years, and my dear husband said to me (because he gets regular updates on people neither of us actually know), "Have you ever heard of taking a Facebook vacation?"

I have heard of this. I have watched various people sign off on Facebook for a few weeks or months. I really didn't think I could do this. How would I have the most up to date gossip on people who have no bearing on my daily life? How, I ask you today. Because this is really important. It is really important to know what someone I met once when I was in third grade thinks about cloth diapers. It is really important that I see pictures of a family vacation of someone I met when I was fifteen. How would I know that her great-aunt is divorced if I took a Facebook vacation? Or how would I know that that girl I really hate from back in the day has a nicer apartment than I do? Would I ever call any of these people? Would I have coffee with them if they were in San Francisco? Would I ever want to be filled in in person on these people's lives? No, not really. Yet, I feel this deep desire to read their status updates and to compare because isn't that what a lot of us are really doing on Facebook? We are seeing how we stack up. 

Every morning when I wake up, I lie in bed, turn off the alarm, check my email, check Facebook, and check Instagram. This is all before I have actually moved from the supine position. At night sometimes, I have to admit, I spend the time  I used to spend reading scrolling through Facebook. That's a bit much if I do say so myself.

Now, I know that a few weeks ago I was ready to swear off Instagram. And now I am threatening myself with a Facebook embargo. Am I becoming a Luddite? Why are technology and I having such an acrimonious relationship lately? Even blogs are starting to stress me out! Luckily, I have J. to keep me in check about that as he reminded me last evening that this blog is "not the *expletive* New York Times." At least that made me laugh.

In short, I am not sure why I am feeling so at odds with technology of late, but maybe the only way to get over it or to see if it really is taking over my life is to try a little hiatus. So, I pose to you the same question that was posed to me. Have you ever taken a Facebook vacation? Would you recommend it? Don't worry, I am not taking a vacation from the blog (and because of the blog I know I have started using social media much more than I used to, so I would have to figure out that side of things), but I might be willing to give at least Facebook a little time off. Imagine what I will be able to do with all those extra hours minutes! Even though people will get married and divorced, wear really cool outfits, and make important diapering decisions that I might not know about, I think I might survive.

Friday, August 23, 2013

Fabulous Friday

I took this picture last year, and it came to mind this week because it sums up the way I feel on this Friday. This week got off to a very rocky start. Without trying to be annoyingly vague, I can say that there were a lot of things at play in our lives that were terribly scary and potentially life changing. But, this Friday, everything seems to be settling down. This was a week of good news and a lot of deep breaths. During the past week, I said to my husband, "Every day something bad doesn't happen is nothing short of a miracle." Staring in the face of real life problems gave me perspective that I want to hold on to, perspective that, though unpleasantly come by, is vital at times to remind me of all that I have that is so damn good. Even though this Friday marks my first full day back at work, a day that usually has my stomach in knots, I feel remarkably peaceful, remarkably grateful. I am grateful for this miracle of a life filled with many days where nothing bad happens. I hope your weekend is full of gratitude and deep breaths.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Fresh For Fall

I have been so distracted lately, that I am behind on scoping out the new J.Crew fall collection. But, the arrival of my little rewards card in the mail reminded me to check that out. Here are some of my favorite fall pieces. I think these would make for a lovely fall wardrobe.


I absolutely love all the pieces they are doing with leather (like the sweater above). The one thing I desperately want for fall (and have lusted for since I moved to SF) is a leather jacket. But, the ones I want are decidedly out of my price range. In the meantime, I think I could settle for some leather embellishments. 

I also like the baseball hat trend that seems to be going on. I saw (and by "saw" I mean online) a few of them at Fashion Week last year, but it appears they are now going more mainstream. I like this trend because of the misty weather in this city. My hair hates it, and I do sometimes throw on a baseball hat for the commute to work to keep my locks under control. I think a nice wooly hat for fall and winter would be just the thing to combat this problem.

Overall, I like the rich, dark tones. I love color as much as the next girl, but there is something so classic about the gray, black, navy, and camel colors of this season. It certainly makes for a versatile closet.

Just so happens that a sale is currently on: 25% off orders of $150 of more with the code FALLSTYLE. Plus, free shipping on every order. Get your shop on.

LEATHER POCKET sweater - V-NECK WITH POCKETS sweater (I bought two of these last year, and I am obsessed. I want to add this color to my collection.)  - COLORBLOCK WOOL baseball cap - CRYSTAL LEAVES earrings - ANKLE BOOTS - STRIPED VEST - EMBELLISHED DENIM button down - CONTRAST KNIT blazer

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Jean Obsession

You need to get these jeans. Okay, the issue with jeans is that they really have to be right for your body type, but I think these jeans are just fantastic for my genes (and maybe yours too!). I ordered a pair of the DL 1961 Angel Jeans, which are a dark, cropped jean that hits just above the ankle. These are the jeans I have been dreaming of forever. They fit me so perfectly. I think I want to order ten more pairs. And they come in loads of colors! I am jonesing for a pair in black for the winter.  I am new to this brand (DL 1961). I had never heard of it until recently, but I know now they are sold in all the big retailers (Bloomingdales, Nordstrom, Shopbop, you get the idea). I have been missing out. Now that I recognize the logo, I saw someone at work wearing them this week, and she has a different body type than I do and they looked awesome on her too. So, I think these are the BEST JEANS EVER. Are you familiar? Every try them? What did you think?

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Tuesday Beauty


Before my sister went to England for the summer, she replaced all her old, crumbling make-up with loads of new goodies. She bought this 'Luxe' eye palette by Bobbi Brown (which, according to the description, seems like it is billed as a selection for brides), and I have been sneakily using it every chance I can get. Usually the problem with palettes is that you like one or two shades, maybe three if you're lucky, and then the rest go unused. Not so with this one. If you are partial to the natural look, you will love every color in this selection. There is a matte cream colored shade to prep the lid, four soft shades with a touch of sparkle, and chocolate brown to use as a liner. Plus, there is a mini eye shadow and eye liner brush for touch ups on the go! Now that my sister and I have had to go back to our lives and are not longer Cape Cod roomies, I am going to have to buy one for myself.

Monday, August 19, 2013

Monday Musings

Miles Teller and Shailene Woodley in The Spectacular Now

J. and I have been on a "coming of age" kick this summer. We have now seen three such films: The Perks of Being a Wallflower, The Way Way Back, and The Spectacular Now, which we saw on Saturday. I think that the same resounding message has been delivered to me by all three films: high school and being a teenager generally sucks. So glad I don't have to do that again. Sure, there are lots of moments that are thrilling where you feel young and invincible, beautiful and sophisticated, on top of the world, moments when the future seems limitless and you are ready to conquer it, whatever it is. But those moments tend to be less than regular if I remember correctly.

When I was in high school, I loved the book The Perks of Being a Wallflower. I thought it was amazing. I even gave it to my friends, and I felt the same way about the movie. I just adored it. It is painful, but so poignant and moving. J., on the other hand, was in a funk after watching it and just kept muttering, "Oh you couldn't pay me to do that again." The Way Way Back had some great funny moments and certainly was more uplifting than Perks, but highlighted, again, the real angst in trying to figure out who you are. The Spectacular Now had a little of everything. There were some funny moments, some tragic moments, some hopeful moments...There was a scene in the movie where Sutter, the main character, asks his teacher what's so great about growing up. He says that all the adults he knows are not happy. He asks the teacher, "Are you happy?" and the teacher doesn't answer him.  As both a teacher and an adult, I wanted to yell at the screen, "Yes! I am happy! You'll be happy too! It gets better!" And, if I had a student who asked me that question, I know that I could say yes and mean it, unequivocally.

Those three movies made me think about how much I like being at the age I am now, but they also highlighted something new for these kinds of movies, at least in my opinion. The kids in both The Way, Way Back and The Spectacular Now actually looked like real people. They had "real life" bodies and slightly imperfect skin. They wore clothes and did their hair like real teenagers. It might have been the most refreshing thing about those movies! The acting in The Spectacular Now was so spot on. I could think of so many kids I know saying exact lines from that movie. The realness of these three films made them each, in their own right, a pleasure to watch. But, the best part was being able to walk out of the theater with my husband, get into my car, drive back to my own place, and get back to my decidedly adult life.

Friday, August 16, 2013

Fabulous Friday

I was going to say to hell with Fabulous Friday because, frankly, I wasn't feeling so fabulous. This week took some unexpected turns and had me a little frazzled. However, on this Frazzled Friday I did think of something fabulous to share. Sometimes the universe just offers up something that you need to hear or see...in the form of Pinterest. Yes, Pinterest can be a sign from the universe. Thank goodness for all those boards of quotes and words to live by. This one flashed across my scrolling screen yesterday, and it was what I needed to think about:


While I usually let worry set up shop, today I am going to try to make some room for faith. More often than not, things resolve themselves in time, so today I am going to approach the day with that philosophy. Perhaps if you are having a Frazzled Friday too, this will inspire you to do the same. Of course, in all reality, I am not sure that I can ever not worry, but a girl can try. And this is a little reminder to do just that.

Have a fabulous weekend. Here's to less worrying and more wonderful. 

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Currently...

These days are coming to an end! Not ready to say goodbye to summer...

FEELING: I am having lots of mixed feelings. I am writing this on the plane somewhere over the middle of the country, and I am going back to CA for the first time in a month. Part of me is looking forward to the routine of work, something I do admittedly miss during the summer months, but, of course, the other part of me is so sad to leave my family for the long stretch between now and the holidays. I tend to be my best self when working and busy, so I know that getting back to that is good for me, but the beginning of another year is also always fraught with anticipation, anxiety, doubts, and fears amidst the hopefulness and excitement that occasionally find a way to work their way in there. Every year around this time I wonder if I can do it...and somehow, I always do.

THINKING ABOUT: This blog. The summer is a slow time for lots of professions. Last summer, I didn't do much, so I was a relatively voracious blogger. I spent all my free time looking for ideas to write about and putting together posts. This summer, I have actually unplugged myself a bit. I haven't even been reading my daily blogs myself, so I can't fault others for being away from their computers. I think I have gotten into a bit of a creativity rut, which is funny because I have actually been out and about more, which usually helps to generate ideas. But, being in Cape Cod where I pretty much wore gym clothes and no makeup for a few weeks was a welcome breather from the inundation of beauty products, clothing options, sales, promotions, trends, and must-haves. I felt very refreshed. However, that makes for less interesting blogging. I hope to strike a balance in the coming months. All those lovely materialistic things in moderation, and more days spent in gym clothes not giving a damn.

EATING: I am getting into a morning routine of Special K with Protein topped with blueberries and raspberries. Such a good way to start that day.

WATCHING: I am absolutely addicted to Brothers and Sisters. Netflix recommended it to me based on what I had been watching, and it is terrific. If you are a fan of Parenthood, you will like this show. It has a very similar premise (big family, lots of family drama), but I would say it has a slightly darker side than Parenthood. In other words, not so many tears spurred by "Oh my gosh that is so precious" sentiments, but it still gets me to have a good cry every couple of episodes.  I know it is old, so maybe some of you were fans when it was on. If you missed it like I did, all the seasons are on Netflix!

READING: Next up on my list is Bobcat and Other Stories by Rebecca Lee. I had not heard of it until a colleague gave it rave reviews. I love short stories, so I can't wait to check these out. The NY Times was also a fan.

LOVING: I totally fell for the product placement by a celebrity in the most recent issue of Glamour magazine. I know that Jennifer Aniston is a spokesperson for Aveeno, but when she said that she loved their Positively Radiant Skin Brightening Daily Scrub, I bought it. I am so the person that falls for that stuff every time. That being said, it is a gentle exfoliant, and I do really like it. Maybe Jen was telling the truth...If I will look more like her by using it, hell, I'll give it a go. Plus, it's easy on the wallet.

BUMMED OUT ABOUT: Obviously. Leaving my family. I cried. I always do. It never gets easier to say goodbye.

LOOKING FORWARD TO: Seeing what this year has in store for me. While it's obviously not New Year, September always feels like the beginning of a new year in my book, and I am excited for the year ahead. It's always kind of fun to think about what stretches before you, and then to look back at all the things that happened the year before. Everyone else probably does this in January. I'm a little off, but nothing new there.

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Be Inspried By: Lonny Magazine

The July/August issue of Lonny Magazine features the beautiful and talented Lake Bell on the cover. I have seen her in a few things over the years, but I thought she looked particularly stunning in her spread. I also loved the yard of her Brooklyn townhouse, which inspired me to put together an outfit pulling from the colors of the garden. Here is Lake. Isn't she looking lovely?



Here is Lake's garden. 


And here is what I might wear if I wanted to look like Lake's garden. I would never have put these colors together on my own, but seeing them in nature made me realize just how much they complement each other.


J.CREW sweater - JOIE dress - MARGARET ELIZABETH earrings - ANTHROPOLOGIE bracelet - ANTHROPOLOGIE earrings - ASHA bangles - TORY BURCH bag - LOEFFLER RANDALL pumps - JOIE sandals

Where are you finding your inspiration lately?

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Tuesday Beauty

What I dream of using ($70) vs. what I currently use ($27) vs. what I used to use ($5.99). Is it worth it?
Instead of telling you about something I love, today I am hoping that someone can weigh in and tell me about something I've been contemplating. As far as my wardrobe is concerned, I have made a concerted effort this year to clean house. As hard as it is to get rid of things that are "pretty" or "good quality," if they are simply sitting on a rack in my closet gathering dust, then what is the point of keeping them? Instead of filling the space back up with more of the same, I am trying to buy less, but buy better. By better I mean more classic, more timeless, higher quality items that will really stand the test of time, be fabulous every year, and get lots of wear.

In terms of make-up, I have always chosen high quality over the drug store brands (with certain exceptions) because the pigments are richer and the shades and products are generally more in line with the natural look I like to create. (Plus, I really can't stand buying makeup without trying it out on my skin first, which one cannot do at CVS.) But, I have my limits. I don't spend like a crazy person. That being said, there is one "spend it like a crazy lady" item that keeps coming onto my radar and that is the Cle du Peau concealer. I have heard people rave about this, but $70 dollars for concealer sounds like a bit of insanity right there. However, if it made my skin look flawless, yeah, I'd drop that. So, my question to you is, have you tried it? Would you try it? Does it live up to the hype? Is this one worth the splurge?

Monday, August 12, 2013

Monday Musings: The Kindness of Strangers


While I was away supposedly enjoying the end of my vacation, I had a little episode. I blacked out in a deli and, while I thought I was leaning up against a wall, I fell out the front door and onto the pavement. Face first. Yikes. Sounds really scary, and it was, but, let's face it...it was kind of comical. Apparently, I was practically in the trash can before I fell out the main entrance. When I came to, a man kindly asked me if he could step over me to get to his children. Sure, bud. No problem.

But, I am not writing this to tell you about the fall itself, which turned out to be nothing except a case of over exertion and lack of fluids, but rather because it made me think about something I wrote about once before. When the Boston bombing happened, I wrote about how there are so many good people in the world, something we might lose sight of in the face of what many people consider to be pure evil. When I was lying on the pavement outside of Box Lunch, I was reminded just how many kind and selfless people there truly are. There was a woman who quickly took her water and filled a cup and helped me drink it. There was the woman who made an ice pack and put it on the back of my neck. There was the nurse who comforted me, evaluated the situation, and told me what to do when I left. There was the older man who told me that I could get checked for free at the local fire station. There were the EMTs at the fire station who told me if I didn't feel well later, they'd come to my house to make sure I was okay. And none of these people knew me. And none of these people had to do anything. And none of these people gained anything by taking time out of their lives to sit with me and make sure I was okay. But they did it anyway because helping someone was an instinctual response. Something happened. People responded.

I mentioned this to my sister the day after the incident while we were talking about what happened (she was there, but was ordering me a sandwich, and when she turned around, I was out the door) and she said, "Well, you're the easiest kind of person to help." In a way, she was right. Unlike so many people who are unfairly misjudged every day of their lives, I am a blonde, white woman who was ordering a turkey sandwich in a safe place in the middle of the afternoon. I don't look like I pose a threat. I am put together and appear respectable. All that is true. And all those things might (and likely do) contribute to someone being willing to get on the pavement and rub my back. I could focus on the privilege I experienced, and I am not saying that that privilege is not real. But, for this moment, I am focusing on the kindness I experienced. I am so grateful that there are people who are selfless and good, and I am grateful that I have been able to be the recipient of the kindness of strangers. Despite a few bumps and bruises, I primarily took from that experience a renewed sense of the goodness of people, and for that I am the most grateful of all.

(Find this adorable journal via Smythson)

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Who Needs a Vacation?

Lonny Magazine
From what I can tell with the lines, the crowded beaches, and the quantity of ice cream being sold, everyone is currently on vacation! And, while I have been trying to keep up with the blog while zoning out from technology and enjoying nature, sometimes it is hard to strike a balance. So, I am taking the next two days off to enjoy the end of my time on Cape Cod, to fit in a few more trips to the beach, and to enjoy the salt air and the peace of summer. Hope you don't mind! See you next week.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

I Adore It...As Always

A little visual inspiration on this hump day. I must say, the weather at the Cape has been divine. Perfect for beach visits, pool dips, and even a little kayaking yesterday. Looks fun until you are paddling like a crazy person against the wind, and just as you think your arms will give out forever because you have not been lifting any weights this summer, you land on a sandbar and have to get out and push your kayak...not that that happened to me. But, when I was paddling with the wind, the scenery was quite exquisite.

I am always in love with Adore Home, and this edition is no exception. Here are some of my favorite pages...





Of course, now I want to redo my place. Gets me every time. If you are not currently a subscriber to this delightful online publication, then you should get on that!

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Tuesday Beauty


When I was in London was hair was absolutely unmanageable. Of course, I didn't have the proper converter to allow me to use my straightener and curling iron, so I had to simply blow dry, which generally isn't good enough for my sort of wavy, sort of not, sort of insanely voluminous hair. But, more than that, my hair has never felt so dry and straw-like. I think it was the water. And any product I used built up and made my hair appear greasy even when it was freshly washed. Clarifying shampoo to the rescue.

I generally use clarifying shampoo once a week or once every other week, but it is so great in the summer when you are in the ocean or the pool, when you're exposing your hair to chlorine and products. Bumble and Bumble's Sunday shampoo is aptly named and intended for once a week usage. (Because you're only using it once a week, you get more bang for your buck as well!) It gives your hair a super clean feel, and, for me, it undid all the London water damage in one wash. It lathers beautifully and makes me feel like I pressed the reset button on my hair. I give this one a big thumbs up.

Monday, August 5, 2013

Monday Musings: On Tanning


Tanning is a fraught issue in my family. We have never been a tan people. Growing up, we were not allowed to go to the beach before 3:30 pm. This was a combination of two things: 1.) my parents belief that the sun is deadly and surely any time spent in direct overhead sun will kill you...immediately and 2.) parking was free after 3pm. We never were the family who packed up the car and headed to the beach for the day. God forbid. We never packed a picnic and toys and played in the sand, swam, napped, lunched, etc. We slathered on our sunscreen as the sun was going down and headed out with one towel each and a chance to "take a nice walk along the water," as my mother always says.

Things haven't really changed in these parts. My parents are now the owners of a beach house, yet they only go to the beach to watch the sunset. They absolutely, adamantly refuse to visit the beach while the sun is out. Part of me has come to believe that this makes sense. We are all very fair, there has been skin cancer in the family, and everyone knows that sun really is quite bad for your skin. Yet, in the intervening years, there have been inventions like...hmmm...beach umbrellas. So, if you don't even trust sunscreen, you can always sit in the shade. My parents think the UV reflects off the sand, so even in the shade, we are probably not safe. They are a little extreme.

However, I am not so different from them. I am not really the type to want to sit on the beach for the day. I like a good hour or two, and then I'm pretty much set. I still have massive guilt about sitting in the sun between the hours of 11 and 2pm, even if it's for half an hour with ten pounds of sunscreen slathered all over my already glowingly white body. But, I do have to admit that everyone, and I mean everyone, looks good with a little tan. I know the few times in my life that I've had a tan, I was suprised at how much healthier I looked.

But therein lies the conundrum. With a tan you look healthy, but tan is actually damage that your skin has undergone, and in twenty or thirty years, those "healthy" days of your youth turn into those wrinkled and shriveled days/years of your middle age. This is a constant battle my sister and I have. "Get out of the sun," I yell to her from my umbrella covered perch, and then later that night when she is looking like a veritable Barbie with her white blonde locks and brown skin (she is the only Whitehouse who tans),  I am secretly a little pissed I decided never to be seen in the bright light of day. What am I? A vampire?

I am always one of the only people to return from summer vacation as white (or sometimes even whiter from all the sunscreen) as I was when I departed. And, I rarely, if ever, have the glow of "health." But, this might be one of those situations in which I am willing to trade superficial beauty for true health and protection. My parents certainly are too extreme. I hope to take my kids to the beach someday for an afternoon picnic. But you better believe they will be wearing sunhats and eating their sandwiches under an umbrella.

Friday, August 2, 2013

Fabulous Friday

Basically, pure happiness is being in Cape Cod, with my sister (yes, we took that photo in a car park), eating lobster rolls and ice cream, wearing this fabulous new lip gloss and a Lily Pulitzer caftan. (Where could you ever wear that in SF? ) Does it get any better? Hope your weekend is shaping up to be just a fabulous.

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Currently...

FEELING: Like I want to enjoy every last second of summer before it's over. The beginning of August (today!!) marks the moment I start thinking about fall and going back to work. My intention is to live up every last second of summer and not worry about the fact that my days of freedom are dwindling! Just so happens that I made the executive decision to return to Cape Cod. It wasn't so summery in SF, so it felt like it was time to be by the beach again. And here I am.

THINKING ABOUT: Ew. Work. I have work that is hanging over my head. I need to get it done in the next two weeks, but every day just seems to get away from me...Actually, I am just a huge procrastinator when not working under any time pressure. And emails...If I owe you one, I am getting on it! Perhaps if I just did these things instead of thinking about them, I could spend my energy elsewhere!

EATING: Lobster rolls. They are so incredibly good, and I think they make for the perfect summer meal. I like the cold version with a bit of mayo and some light seasoning. Doesn't hurt if they come with a delicious side of fries...Just saying.

WATCHING: Upon my sister's recommendation, we are watching Orange is the New Black, which depicts the story of an upper class white girl who finds herself in prison for carrying drug money ten years prior. I am only on episode two. So far it is interesting. I am not sure I am totally hooked, but it doesn't take much for me to buy into a show. I heard about the show in January when I was getting my make-up done for my brother's wedding because the make-up artists were also working on this show. When it popped up on my Netflix, I remembered and was intrigued.

LOVING: The beach. I am not usually a big beach person given the fact that I am really sun avoidant, but I spent yesterday at the beach (and snapped that photo above!), and it was beyond relaxing. I read gossip magazines, watched the water, and napped under my umbrella. Perfect, and I can't wait to do it again.

BUMMED OUT ABOUT: Being away from my hubby. I love being by the beach, I love being in the summer weather, and I love spending time with my sister (who is chilling in Cape Cod with me), but I don't love leaving my husband to work in SF. Wish he were here. It's not the same without him.

READING: I just started Lean In. If I'm going to join the revolution, I better read the book! I'll let you know what I think when I get further.

LOOKING FORWARD TO: The weekend! My parents are coming up to the Cape, and we plan to keep working on the house and hanging out. Good times are sure to ensue.